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June 27, 2014

Are You Struggling With Change?

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Change has come to the Cole household, and I thought I was totally prepared for it. In some ways, I felt  like I was even anticipating it. But change is always a challenge — even when that change is good.

Are you struggling with change in your life? On today’s Front Porch Friday, I’ll share my own struggle as we resume our series: STRONGER — 7 Struggles That Will Make You Stronger. Join me and discover how you (and yes me, too) can grow stronger through seasons of change. See you on the porch!

 

Your sister,

LaurieSigWhat’s changing in your life these days? Have you ever struggled with the same kind of change that I am?  Please post a note — I would love to hear from you!

 

 

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  1. Diane says

    June 27, 2014 at 1:51 pm

    My daughter married and moved to New Zealand! (I live in Texas.) My youngest son has just decided to go to college in Minnesota and will be leaving us in about a month. My older son (between the two other children) has graduated from college and plans to move out soon, so my husband and I will be empty-nesters somewhere in the next few months. I teach school and dance classes outside of school. I am facing changes in both of my work places, so change seems to be a frequent theme in my life right now. So far, so good – but there are those times when I feel anxious or my heart feels sad to see them leave. Yet, I’m happy for them all with their decisions and the wonderful futures they have ahead. Any suggestions?

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    • Laurie Cole says

      June 27, 2014 at 2:24 pm

      My change pales in comparison with yours, Diane. You have a LOT of change going on, and I think it’s absolutely normal that you feel “anxious” and “sad” at times. One suggestion(beyond the 3 I mentioned on the video): be sure to share your heart completely with your husband. Let him know how you’re feeling and that you need his support and encouragement through these changes. Also, as I think about your situation, Diane, a couple of other verses from Ecclesiastes come to mind: Ecc. 4:9-12. You may already be familiar with this passage, but I’m praying it will encourage you. Thanks so much for sharing. Love!

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      • Diane says

        June 27, 2014 at 3:55 pm

        Thank you for your reply. My husband, Rick, knows how I feel. He’s feeling it, too, especially with our youngest going off to college so far away. I am familiar with the verses you suggested, but it’s always good to go back and re-read. Sometimes something different speaks to you from a verse you already know. Thanks for the prayers. Please know mine keep going out to you, too!

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  2. Linda says

    June 27, 2014 at 2:33 pm

    Oh, Laurie! Remember “The Three Doors To Contentment”. I just shared my notes from your Bible Study “There is a Season” last week with a young mother who is taking “Beauty By the Book for Teens” with her teenage daughter that I am leading. She also has a daughter who just graduated high school and will be going off to college to equip herself for some sort of ministry.She wants that for her daughter, but it will be an adjustment for their family. I won’t ever forget those words: “Rejoice,” “Do Good”, “See Good.” On June 25, 2000 – fourteen years ago – my husband of 38 years died on a Sunday afternoon from a heart attack. Of Course, prior to that ensuing struggle for me, was the struggle when our only son got married after college and moved out of state with his new bride. When my dad was in the final stages of terminal cancer, one day when we had quiet time alone, he told me not to be sad, because there was a time and a place for every thing – a season – and his season had come. Since those defining times, I have had many struggles. But God works out His plan for us. I wish I had had the full understanding of that Scripture at the time, but my mantra when I found myself alone, facing tasks that I didn’t think I could handle, feeling brokenhearted, became, “Find a need and fill it.” I think now that I could translate that into “rejoice,” “do good,” and see good.” When I help somebody else, I’m the one who receives the blessing. But, I must say that the need for tears, can still come even this many years later, June 25th for my husband, June 24th when my son got married, June 26th, my husband’s birthday – July 29th for my dad – for those very people, and what they mean to me. I now have a godly husband of 2 1/2 years, after having been a widow for 11 1/2 years. My son and his wife have given me seven grandchildren, and they are the best parents ever. My struggles are easier, and God is good, and He always provides.I could encourage you with your struggles more, but you get the idea. Rejoice! God does indeed work it out for good! Blessings, Linda

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    • Laurie Cole says

      June 27, 2014 at 3:05 pm

      Oh, Linda! Thank you so much for sharing your story, your struggles, and especially how the Lord has grown you into a STRONGER woman through them all. June could be a devastating month for you each year, but you’ve allowed God to be glorified even through your tears.

      Linda, you are very dear to all of us here at Priority. Bless you and thank you for getting into God’s Word with us through our Bible studies and for leading and sharing them with others. You truly do glo, girl! Know of my love and thanksgiving to God for you, dear sister.

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  3. Debbie says

    July 1, 2014 at 8:12 pm

    Yes! What would I do without you ladies! Thank you so much for sharing. I am NOT

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  4. Debbie says

    July 1, 2014 at 8:25 pm

    OOPS! I hit the wrong button, sorry

    Anyways,I was saying, I am NOT a pioneer by nature and all of this is new to me so I am thankful for God’s faithfulness in this good advice by women that have been there, and can give sound scriptural counsel, as my two sweet daughters go off to college this year, my Dad is 84 and my best friend husband’s changes from his heart attack are scary to me. I am so thankful for God’s word too, just today I read 1Thessalonians and it said, we don’t sorrow as those who have no hope. I am so grateful for that precious Hope we have from our Lord. Our anchor holds in the fiercest of storms. Thank you again for the front porch, and the comments. Bless you all

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  5. David says

    February 24, 2015 at 7:46 pm

    Hello there. My change is hard for me. I’m a Christian man that is growing in The Lord. I am married but my wife does not know Christ. When we met we worked in Miami Beach in a club/hotel together and we both partied a lot. We use to always go out and drink with or with out friends. When we got married it continued. One day I woke up and really felt like I needed to change. I still struggle with drinking, but I am also struggling with not wanting to go out because of this. I don’t want to go out because sometimes my wife wants to keep going to bars and when this happens I want to just go home and this upsets her. I guess she thinks I’m boring. It’s not that at all, it’s the fact that I don’t want to drink or be around those who do drink. I do still sometimes drink with her and I’m afraid this just makes things worse because it may confuse her. I just don’t know what to do about it because I feel like I’m changing because God is as work in me and she just wouldn’t understand that. Should I just not go out anymore? I feel so miserable when we are hanging out in a bar now. It use to not be like that.

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    • Laurie Cole says

      March 6, 2015 at 12:21 pm

      First off, David, please forgive me for the delay in responding to you (my computer crashed recently, and I was temporarily unable to do anything on the blog). But I do want you to know that I have been praying for you and your wife ever since you first posted your comment.

      Also, I hope you’ll watch a video I just posted today that deals specifically with Christians who are married to unbelievers. However, my biggest concern for you is that you get connected with a group of Christian men who can encourage, support, and pray for you. Many large churches have Men’s Ministries and small groups for men that I think you would greatly benefit from. And I can’t encourage you enough to get involved in a loving, Bible-believing church if you aren’t already.

      That said, this is what I would say regarding your question about going out and partying/drinking with your wife: your first loyalty is to Christ. And it sounds like He is convicting you not to participate with her in that. However, I would also encourage you that He wants you to love her (Eph. 5:25) and always respond to her in love (even and especially when it’s tough love).

      One final thing: there is another blog that often deals with tough marriage issues like yours. Here’s the link: http://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/ Yes, it’s a women’s blog (like mine is), but I think it will definitely encourage and give you much to prayerfully consider. Please know of my continued prayers for you, my brother, and especially for your wife. Thank you so much for sharing your heart.

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  6. Betty says

    December 10, 2016 at 6:59 am

    I feel that I should be happy for the work. My husband took a job out of state after three years of under employment. It saved us! We decided I would stay in our home to keep in state tuition for our three children. Two have graduated and are moving out of state. Our youngest graduates next year but wants to live here near college friends. The only one who doesnt want to move besides me! I’m torn. It will be four years that my husband commutes back home every other weekend. If I move with him we start all over with no family. Our relationship has changed over time. Starting over with no support system at almost 60 and no children is scarey for me. This will be our 4th move for a job. I am trying to keep our family close but it just doesnt seem possible.

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