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March 5, 2012

Warning: This Post Contains Controversial Content

See those girls? To you, they may look like a typical group of college girls.  But they’re not. They’re different in the very best sense of being different. In fact, in today’s world, these girls are quite controversial. And last night they invited me to meet with them and their leaders to discuss a very controversial topic.

For most of their lives, the culture (and even the church) has communicated a very strong message to these girls regarding this controversial topic. And if you think the topic is sex, you’re wrong. No, the topic they chose – they wanted – to discuss with their adult leaders and me last night was . . .

Marriage. Gasp!

Surprised? Are you wondering why marriage is considered a controversial topic? If so, that’s probably because you’re closer to my age than you are to the age of these girls. But if you’re attuned to today’s culture, you’re familiar with the primary sermon it preaches to girls (and guys) about marriage. It’s a message designed to discourage and dissuade them from marrying unless or until they have achieved one, more, or all of the following goals:

  • They have completed college.
  • They have a successful career.
  • They are established financially.
  • They achieve an independent lifestyle.

Don’t get me wrong. None of the above goals are bad. It’s just that they are all deemed far more desirable than marriage. In fact, you could probably add living together to that list since it’s become the wise, popular, and socially acceptable alternative to marriage.

But don’t take my word for it. The fact that marriage is falling out of favor with today’s generation is backed up by both secular and Christian research.

And if you’re unsure about why the decline of marriage is such a big deal, here’s why:  marriage is the very first institution that God ever established. It’s the building block of every stable civilization and, more importantly, it’s the foundation of the family.

So, what can you and I do about about the decline of marriage? Well, for starters, we can be pro-marriage. We can present marriage to our sons and daughters as a positive, God-honoring pursuit and not some third-class, put-it-off-as-looong-as-possible goal. I warned you this was a controversial post. 

And now I’m going to ask you to stick your neck out even farther. I want you to take a look at one of The Most Controversial Articles I’ve ever read. Published by Christianity Today  in 2009, and written by Dr. Mark Regenerus, a Christian sociologist, the article is entitled, “The Case for Early Marriage.”  You need to read it. But I’m warning you ahead of time, this article may offend you. It may even make you mad.

But whether or not you agree completely with the author’s conclusions, I’m praying that article will make you pause and think about the message you’re conveying to your sons, daughters, and others about marriage. I can tell you that it jarred me to my very core — but it didn’t make me mad. It made me glad. Glad that someone would take a stand for the controversial topic of marriage. 

Okay, enough controversy for now. Let’s get back to last night . . .

For me, the best part of our college girls gathering on Sunday evening was the Q & A with a panel of experts made up of a godly group of married women I know well and love even more.

See those gals sitting in the chairs? That’s the panel of marriage experts: (l-r) Jennifer Sapaugh, Glenna Harding, Mary Burnett (who previously served on our Priority staff and whom we still love to pieces), Joy LeBlanc, and Kelli Holloman (whose beautiful golden locks are hiding her even more beautiful face). 

The girls had tons of good questions about marriage, and the panel had tons of  excellent (and honest, and funny, and deep, and sometimes even embarrassing) answers. And believe you me, the girls were 100% zeroed-in and attentive throughout the Q&A — it was fantastic! All in all, it was one of the most meaningful meetings I’ve ever been a part of.

I came home from that girls gathering encouraged. And today my goal is to encourage you. Marriage, precious sister, is God’s design. Sometimes we forget that, don’t we? It’s easy to forget in a culture that constantly bombards us with so many negative messages and images of marriage (like the 24/7 coverage of the Kim Kardashian marriage-to-divorce debacle).

But today, in the final two paragraphs of this controversial post, I want us to look at marriage from a different perspective. A positive perspective. Let’s recall and reminisce about the very first wedding of all time. Because today, more than ever before, you and I need to be reminded about God’s perspective of marriage:

 “Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him’ . . . So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and . . . He took one of his ribs . . . and [He] fashioned into a woman the rib which he had taken from the man, and brought her to the man. And the man said, ‘This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh. She shall be called Woman because she was taken out of Man.’ For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.”  Genesis 2:18-24 NAS

Controversial? Yes. Out-of-step with today’s culture? Absolutely. But after all, when you walk with God and uphold His Word, you’re going to be like Him. And He’s controversial.

Your pro-God, pro-marriage, controversial sister who loves you,

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  1. jennybc says

    March 5, 2012 at 1:12 pm

    WOW! WOW! WOW! Awesome ost and awesome article. I have been waiting for someone to tackle this issue. I have two college age children (a boy and a girl) neither of whom are dating. However, we have been to two weddings in the last year of their friends and I have to say I am totally for these marriages. Both couples had been dating over two years, they are mature Christians, both are attending college and have jobs. They have been committed to marriage for a while now. It made sense for them to marry instead of waiting for the degree, the good job, or the better time. I believe both couples were spared the pain of broken promises (to themselves and to each other) if they waited for the ceremony. They are thriving couples and it is so encouraging to see them today. What gives? Wise parents who weren’t so caught up in what society thinks and who knew their children’s hearts. Wise parents who said it is unfair of us to ask our kids to be perfect, resist all temptation and carry on a dating life for two more years before marriage. I so respect these parents. Was it a hard decision at first? Yes. Several friends even told them they did not deserve a big wedding or that they should quit paying for college if they chose to be so foolish. They didn’t listen. We need to be willing to allow our kids to use a way of escape when they are committed to each other and not lead them down the road of temptation. Just my thoughts.

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  2. Crystle Delano says

    March 5, 2012 at 1:16 pm

    I love that you did this topic. No matter what people may view, I agree 100%. Marriage is important and STICKING with it, is important.

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  3. Jackey Ny says

    March 5, 2012 at 2:16 pm

    I love that you did this topic. I am definitely pro marriage. Marriage is important. I have many friend who are not for marriage so I am constantly praying for them.

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  4. Alisa Eckeberger says

    March 6, 2012 at 2:13 pm

    I was sitting in the dryer chair waiting for my hair to set, listening to my stylist talking about her upcoming wedding to another client. She was so excited! The girl asked her why she wasn’t living with her fiance’. My stylist said she had read so much about divorce and living together before marriage, with the statistics being extremely high. So, they decided they would not succomb to the ordinary. The client asked, “Then, how will you know if you can live together at all if you don’t give it a try before you get married?” My stylist simply said, “We don’t. But, we will learn!” I was so proud of her, needless to say. It is and will remain a common dilema for Christian young people if parents, grandparents, and “live out loud” believers in Christ as the TRUTH, don’t talk to those around them about the blessings of following in the path set before us by our Father who Created such a blessed partnership as being ONE FLESH! Selah

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  5. Amy says

    March 7, 2012 at 1:07 pm

    Im so glad to see someone stand up for marriage the way God designed it I’ve been married for almost 39 years to my wonderful husband and couldn’t imagine life any other way, we started out very young 16&17 and had a long list of goals and dreams and together we have met most of them and are still working on a few

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  6. Alyssa says

    March 13, 2012 at 12:54 pm

    Amen I got married at 19 was still in college, though my husband was 7 years my elder. We made it and we’re still going strong 12 years later.

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